Skip to main content

Charlotte

Charlotte was one of the first people I started regularly talking with from AdultFriendFinder. She lost her husband 3 years prior and was ready to find a good guy to be her friend with benefits. She specifically says she doesn't want to get married again because "she's too old for that nonsense." I think she is in her 40s. We began talking offline from the website using text messagaing sometime in July and have been talking ever since.

Charlotte is a real enigma. She and I have discussed everything you can imagine from our past pains to our current struggles, and finally our future hopes. She talks about sex, but not in the typical way you would find from the scammers. She is interested in hooking up with a man but doesn't talk dirty or try to entice me like so many others have. She wants to meet up some day and spend days together having fun and loving each other, but she has never once said she loves me. She does not display the typical traits I've seen from the obvious romance scammers. I have been perplexed as to whether to trust her but so far, I have been.

I have done the usual background checking and found almost nothing, but I have found her business website in a small town. What is weird is that it uses stock and stolen photos, and the pictures that feature people are apparently matching a woman I found on Facebook who lives in Poland. Ok, that set off some alarms. But unlike some of the other scammers, she tells me she's not going to try to explain herself because she knows she's legit and a hardworking independent small business. So I'm not sure....

But then the weird thing happened. She got an offer for a big business contract and had to travel to Florida for a business meeting. She asked to "borrow" $1000 to help her make the trip. And of course, the account she wanted me to send the money to was someone who studied computer science in Africa, and now lives in Lithuania. She claims he is a business partner who helped her with the website and sometimes helps her with things. I'm suspicious of course, but this whole business of online dating seems to be a gamble anyway. How well can we really know the people we are sharing our lives with across the Internet?

I did have her send me a short-notice selfie with a clock in her background to verify the time and she did that. It was definitely her and she looked normal, not posed and made up like a model shoot, so I'm left guessing what I am wrong about, if anything or everything.

I am still talking to Charlotte and I did help her with her trip, only because it was a loan and she promised it back (yeah, I know).

Will it ever get any easier? I don't know,  but stay tuned for updates...

Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Beginnings

I could write a book about how I got to this point, but I think you would get bored. But understanding my background is probably important to understand how I got into these situations.  I have been married a long time but I am extremely lonely. You see, my wife was injured in a car accident and now lives under constant care in a nursing home. She's been there over a decade and I miss our relationship. I visit her almost every day but I don't know if she recognizes me or even knows what's going on around her.  At some point this year, the loneliness became crushing. I miss the contact of a woman's skin, and the smile she gives, the little hugs, and funny quips. I miss the sex. I don't even know how long it's been, but I assure you, it's been too long. I've dealt with the ethical and social repercussions of finding someone to hook up with and I decided I need to do something for my own life too. My mental health has suffered and I have found that depressi...
Post a Comment
Read more

Charlotte, update and final status

Well, I finally got my answer about Charlotte. Whoever played this persona knew how to make it seem convincing. We continued to talk but she ran into a situation where she supposedly won a huge interior design contract in UAE, worth about $800,000, but she had to head over to the country in a week or so. Of course, she didn't have the money and asked me for several thousand dollars on a loan to help her out. I might have tried to help her out more if I had the money in the first place, but my suspicions were on alert. I continued to tell her I didn't have money for more than a week when she started getting pushy about it. Things were not clicking any further and she said she wanted at least $2000 or she would be really mad... so I blocked her. No, that's not the end of the story. A couple of days later, I got texts from several different phone numbers exposing my Facebook friends and a few nudes I shared with her. I swear, I only ever shared with two women... and they were ...
Post a Comment
Read more

Xfun ?

Somehow I found myself on Xfun, an app for "meetups," and I had low expectations. The amount of people in my vicinity was quite low and many of them were suspicious. I think there may have been a few real women on this site but none seemed interested in me. I believe the app has a fairly high cost to message or "like" someone and the only responses I ever got either drained my credits or went straight for the scam. Your mileage may vary, but it's not a place I had any sort of luck with, but at least I didn't fall for any scams  ;-)
Post a Comment
Read more